When my friend first told me she was looking for a partner on Minder, I thought it was a typo.

"Surely she means Tinder," I thought.

She didn't. Minder is a real thing, an app Muslims use to browse local singles, much like Tinder.

As a Muslim, you get used to people not understanding your life. They don't get why you cover your hair or why you don't eat during Ramadan, the holy month of fasting. And they definitely don't get how Muslim relationships work. I've been asked countless times if we get hitched solely through arranged marriages. (We don't.) Some people seem to have a notion Islam is stuck in the 15th century.

Yes, there's always that family friend who can't stop herself from playing matchmaker. But many Muslim millennials, especially those of us who grew up in the West, want more control over who we end up spending the rest of our lives with. Platforms like Minder and Muzmatch, another Muslim dating app, have put that power in our hands. They counteract misconceptions that Islam and modernity don't mix. And ultimately, they're proof that we, like 15 percent of Americans, use technology to find love.