Usually lies are to blame. Yes, people lie to each other too much and it affects their relationship very much. And yet, we lie to ourselves, and suffer from it. The fact is that when we are in search, we are tired of it, sometimes we are ready to close our eyes to such things that it is simply impossible to close our eyes to. For example, a girl can be impressed in a good way by the aggression of a guy who is jealous of her even at the initial stage of the relationship, tells her that he is the owner and will not give her away to anyone, and so on. She finds it romantic, but after the couple gets together, she realizes that he is abusing her and allowing himself too much. Very often this happens when a girl cannot fight back, and everything ends with beatings or something even worse. Guys also make the wrong choice when they think that a girl will be just as cute with him cooing her to cook 4 meals a day all her life. But you must accept that no one owes you, even if in the end the girl becomes his wife. In general, it is better when you take responsibility and can serve yourself. Otherwise, you will expect too much from your partner and get angry because he does not do this, but he did in the “demo version”.

It is also impossible to look for your soul mate, focusing only on the emotions that you experience in relation to a person at the first time of acquaintance. For example, a girl's beauty may be the only thing she has. And there is nothing good in this. Perhaps there are men for whom it is enough that the girl is simply beautiful. But you are unlikely to be one of them. If you think about how to find a soul mate, and it is important for you how a person behaves and what he does towards you, then you are unlikely to stop at just a beautiful girl. In the same way, girls, making a choice in favor of a handsome man with a pumped-up press, are very often mistaken, because his beauty is usually his main and only advantage. In general, in fact, there are very few harmonious people in the world, in which all positive qualities are combined in equal proportions. Therefore, you will have to focus on what is more important to you and turn a blind eye to what you are willing to endure. But it is better, of course, to focus on the fact that you agree on the most important thing. Otherwise, even if at first you think that this is your soulmate, then in the end your needs will prevail and you will regret the hastily made choice. This often happens when people with different religious views get married, and the husband cannot stand the “posts” of his wife, or suddenly becomes against her faith.