I'm new here and wasn't sure what forum topic to put this under, hope I picked the right one.

I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, he has been living with me for over 3. He has three minor children which he sees every other weekend and once a week.

The threats and harassment from his ex started right away. I wasn't allowed to be left alone with the kids for any period of time, she had to have my phone number and address, she stalked me on FaceBook, and found whatever information she could about me and my family online (including my grandmothers information) and used it against him in court. For example: She found out I wasn't Christian and told the judge lies about me and my beliefs. All without prof or the ability for me to speak.

His ex is an attorney, specializing in fathers rights, family and criminal law. Yet she is not a father right advocate when it comes to the father of her children. She has tried to serve me at my grandmothers home, called my son's school to try and get information and hacked into my boyfriends email accounts (deleting one completely and emptying the other, both were emptied into her email account).

Now, these email accounts had EVERYTHING. Correspondences between his attorney and him self, personal messages and every text message sent to his phone (he was trying to document all the crazy making). This was then brought up and used against him in court.

But the kicker was when she placed not one but 3 sex ads on an adult website with my full legal name, home address and home phone number. Luckily a friend of mine stumbled across it and contacted me within hours of them being posted.

Now she is demanding my cell phone number and I absolutely REFUSE to give it to her. Because of my refusal she is withholding parenting time she had originally agreed my boyfriend could have over the holiday break.
I will NOT give out my number and have given alternatives, ex. I will forward my home phone number to my cell phone if I am out with the kids, she is informed of where we'll be and when, my boyfriend and his parents all have cell phones and she has their numbers. This isn't good enough...nothing is good enough.

I don't want to give her my cell phone number but am worried that if she takes this in front of the judge, he'll make me give it to her.

Am I worrying for no reason? Do you think the judge would side with her? She keeps stating that it's important she have it "in case of emergencies", yet we give her plenty of other options.

This is only a small sampling of what I've dealt with over the last 4 years. I keep hoping it will get better but it doesn't. Sometimes it gets better long enough to make me think "maybe she's finally changing" and then more crazy making happens and my boyfriends parenting time is taken away or threatened.